One won’t usually find the word “freedom” among the words most commonly associated with “budget”. But while one would think to set a restriction on the amount of money you spend monthly would leave you feeling closed off and limited, budgeting correctly actually does the opposite. Controlling what you do financially (instead of letting your finances control you) and knowing where your money is going each month gives you . . . peace. It sounds like an oxymoron, but this is why it works:
From as far back as I remember, I longed to be a wife.
Whenever my elementary school friends and I played house, I always had to be the mother.
There was just something about the love of a husband and wife that I so dearly wanted for myself.
The thing is, I think women intuitively desire marriage because from the beginning of time God said it was not good for man to be alone (see Genesis 2:18).
God gives his people desire to mirror him, to display his glory to the world.
In marriage, women hold a unique role in mirroring something much larger than themselves.
In preparing for my own marriage, I’ve come to realize that this something larger is the gospel.
No one warned me that when you get married your laundry doesn’t double – it most definitely triples. Let’s face it – sometimes housework isn’t fun at all (I’ve never heard anyone say their favorite hobby is cleaning toilets). But how does someone keep going through all the mundane chores and take care of their home with a cheerful attitude? It turns out homemaking really isn’t about the organization of things, the money you plan to spend, or the food you’re preparing.
The truth is, being Silas’ wife was the no-deal-breaker promise I needed to force me to trust God – no matter what – in our relationship. I married Silas because I knew I would be able to follow God better, and even in our few months of marriage that has proven to be true.
However, a loving Pastor gave me one of the greatest gifts a Pastor could give to a bride-to-be. A few phone calls and texts later, and he arranged a coffee date for me and a former military/current police wife. I gleaned so much wisdom and encouragement from Bethany over that java in Kansas City.
When it came to wedding traditions, my husband was much more adamant about keeping them than I was (up until I accepted help from my family and friends, I just wanted to forget all the wedding planning stress and just elope!). However, the more I learned the symbolism behind many traditions, I grew to appreciate them . . . Well, the ones that reflected the gospel, anyway.
I am willing to bet that these five wedding budget tips I learned through the trials and errors of planning our small (45 guests!) DIY celebration will be completely applicable for your wedding planning situation. This isn’t your typical breakdown of exactly how much I spent and on what – because what Silas and I determined important won’t necessarily be important to you. Implement these simple budgeting tips and I know you’ll be released of so much wedding planning stress!