How To Serve Your Spouse Through Homemaking

“Honey, you’re such a great homemaker,” my new husband told me after a long day of unpacking boxes and wiping down baseboards.

When you think of the term “homemaker”, what comes to mind? Is it a title reserved for stay-at-home-moms, a term that seems like it belongs in the 1950’s, or maybe a desirable vocation?

Who Cooks At Home Anymore, Anyways?

Say “homemaker” and automatically one of the first things that come to mind is amazing all-from-scratch cooking abilities.

I grew up in a family who loves their passed-down Italian recipes and has a borderline unhealthy obsession with pasta sauce.

Quite a bit of my childhood revolved around the kitchen; helping my mom shape pierogi for Christmas Eve dinner, rolling meatballs with my dad, and escaping my grandpa’s reprimands for not seasoning the sausage quite right.

So many people eat out for almost every meal simply because they don’t know how to cook.

My family included me in the meal making tasks growing up, but I didn’t fully acquire true kitchen “skills” (I hesitate to even call it that – I’m really not fancy, I promise!) when I was on my own in my college years.

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I made pizza for a late dinner after one of my first dates with my now-husband (outdoor gun range). I was so excited to show off my dad’s homemade dough recipe (that I talked up the whole ride home).

Unfortunately, after the first bite, I realized I had forgotten the key ingredient: shortening. Talk about a major fail.

But from that first meal of cardboard-textured pie, we discovered cooking was a hobby we shared.

Maybe your cooking skills are worthy of being in the next season of Chopped. Or, perhaps you struggle knowing how much food to prepare for guests.

But when I became a wife, I learned my passion for whipping up recipes just scratched the surface of what it truly means to be a homemaker.

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My Passion for My Home

No one warned me that when you get married your laundry doesn’t double – it most definitely triples.

Let’s face it – sometimes housework isn’t fun at all (I’ve never heard anyone say their favorite hobby is cleaning toilets).

How does someone finish all of the mundane chores with a cheerful attitude?

Homemaking really isn’t about the organization, the cleaning, the budgeting, or the food you’re preparing.

Homemaking is an art that is not only practical but one of the best ways to serve your spouse.

As a newlywed, I quickly found fulfillment in caring for my home because it isn’t about the house itself.

It is all about serving the person whom I love most.

And by utilizing my God-given talents and abilities, I’m living out my calling from Jesus; by stewarding the resources he’s given me, loving my husband, and pouring into my daily chores as an offering to the Lord!

Homemaking doesn’t have to look like the negative stereotypes that circulate throughout our culture.

When you have this purpose behind what you’re doing, you’ll find true fulfillment in it all – even if you’re simply picking up shoes or wiping down countertops.

Homemaking is a Lifestyle

Maybe you have a vocation outside of the home, or perhaps your primary job is taking care of your children.

Regardless of your reality, homemaking isn’t just a hobby – it is truly a lifestyle.

It is a place to let your creativity explore and your thoughts come alive.

Cooking, cleaning, budgeting, and decorating your home is only as interesting as you make it.

You don’t have to aspire to become Mrs. Betty Crocker (who isn’t even real, by the way) or have a white-glove-clean living room. But, you can find enjoyable ways to serve your family well in the space you live in.

Don’t let the title of “homemaker” scare you off. It’s not too early for the single girl to start (you’re reaping the benefits, too!) and it’s never too late for a mama to begin.

Cultivating a home environment is a rewarding experience that will communicate love to your spouse and family and welcome visitors passing through.





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