Homemaking, Wife Wisdom

How To Serve Your Spouse Through Homemaking

“Honey, you’re such a great homemaker,” my new husband told me after a long day of unpacking boxes and wiping down baseboards.

When you think of the term “homemaker”, what comes to mind? Is it a title reserved for stay-at-home-moms, a term that seems like it belongs in the 1950’s, or maybe a desirable vocation?

Who Cooks At Home Anymore, Anyways?

Say “homemaker” and automatically one of the first things that come to mind is amazing all-from-scratch cooking abilities. I am definitely not a food blogger (I just play one in my kitchen – I apologize to my husband for insisting on talking ALL the food pictures) but it’s no secret I have a passion for creating tasty meals and treats. I grew up in a family who loves their passed-down Italian recipes and has a borderline unhealthy obsession with pasta sauce. I spent a lot of my childhood in the kitchen: helping my mom shape pierogi for Christmas Eve dinner, rolling out meatballs or cavatelli with my dad, and sometimes being reprimanded by my grandpa for not seasoning the sausage quite right.

So many people eat out for almost every meal simply because they don’t know how to cook. My family included me in the meal making tasks growing up, but I didn’t fully acquire true kitchen “skills” (I hesitate to even call it that – I’m really not fancy, I promise!) when I was on my own in my college years. I had a filet mignon appetite with a hungry piggybank, so I had no choice but to study how to make unique, delicious recipes I was unfamiliar with. Once I had carefully followed the steps several times they became second nature to me, not daunting and stressful.

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I made pizza for a late dinner after one of my first dates with my now-husband (outdoor gun range). I was so excited to show off my dad’s homemade dough recipe (that I talked up the whole ride home), but after the first bite, I realized I had forgotten the key ingredient: shortening. Talk about a major fail. But from that first meal of cardboard-textured pie, we discovered cooking was a hobby we shared. That pizza recipe has changed quite a bit over the past two years and is truly a work of art that reflects us as a couple.

Maybe your cooking skills are worthy of being in the next season of Chopped, or perhaps you struggle knowing how much food to prepare for guests. The kitchen has always been a place in the home I loved to pour my creative skills into, and will likely forever be my favorite home skill to improve on. But when I became a wife, I learned my passion for whipping up recipes just scratched the surface of what it truly means to be a homemaker.

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My Passion for My Home

No one warned me that when you get married your laundry doesn’t double – it most definitely triples. Let’s face it – sometimes housework isn’t fun at all (I’ve never heard anyone say their favorite hobby is cleaning toilets). But how does someone keep going through all the mundane chores and take care of their home with a cheerful attitude? It turns out homemaking really isn’t about the organization of things, the money you plan to spend, or the food you’re preparing.

Homemaking is an art that is not only practical but one of the best ways to serve your spouse.  As a newlywed I quickly found fulfillment in caring for my home because it isn’t about the house itself (although I do desire a clean, organized space to live in) – it is all about serving the person whom I love most. And by utilizing my God-given talents and abilities, I’m living out my calling from Jesus; by stewarding the resources he’s given me, loving my husband, and pouring into my daily chores as an offering to the Lord and the person he’s given me to love! Homemaking doesn’t have to look like the negative stereotypes that circulate throughout our culture. When you have this purpose behind what you’re doing, you’ll find true fulfillment in it all – even if you’re simply picking up shoes or wiping down countertops.

Whether you hold a vocation outside of the home, or your primary job is taking care of your children, homemaking isn’t just a hobby – it is truly meant to be a lifestyle. It is a place to let your creativity explore and your thoughts come alive. Cooking, keeping a clean house, keeping track of your finances, and decorating your home is only as intriguing as you make it. You don’t have to aspire to become Mrs. Betty Crocker (who isn’t even real, by the way) or have a white-glove-clean living room, but you can find enjoyable ways to serve your family well in the space you live your life in.

Don’t let the title of “homemaker” scare you off. It’s not too early for the single girl to start (you’re reaping the benefits of your work here, too!) and it’s never too late for a mama to begin. Cultivating a home environment is a rewarding experience that will communicate love to your spouse and family and be welcoming to the visitors passing through.






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